Social Media Friends: 50 Tips to Rock Social Love & Advocacy

social media friend advocacyYou know the old saying “be a friend, to get a friend.”  Social media creates amazing opportunities to connect with real people. It doesn't have to be a fake world as some assume. I have personally met people on the social streams who I am now tightly partnered with based on life changing relationships.

It is true that social media is about the people. It is something that I have preached since the minute I hopped on Twitter. However, you can't just say it's about the people and do nothing about it. Many people think if they just sit all day on Twitter and Facebook and talk to the “people” about “whatever” that it will bring result.

For real results both personally and professionally, you need some skin in the game. This includes having a plan, objectives, understanding your audience etc.

So assuming, you have done these things then you are ready to, well, GET SOCIAL!

It's more important what you do for others than what you do for yourself. It may seem easy and be easy to blast coupons all day. However, chances are it's not going to make you a lot of friends nor is it going to generate many sales.

Check out these 50 Tips to Show the Social Love and be a good friend! I wrote them in a way that I am speaking directly to you, telling you what I need, expect and want from you. Of course you don't have to deliver it. What you do and don't do is clearly up to you!

50 Tips to Show the Social Love and be a Good Social Friend

1. Show me your real face! No hiding behind that avatar. I don't have any friends in real life that are one dimensional, with no eyes or mouth.

2. Listen first, then talk.

3. Speak when spoken to. Don't ignore me, please.

4. Acknowledge I exist.

5. Acknowledge I am human, not an avatar or logo.

6. Relationships take time. I am not ready for a date night when we just met.

7. Show me the real you. There is only one you. Be that person.

8. Don't take the fact I trusted you as a connection or friend on a social network for granted. Real friendships are based on trust and integrity.

9. Don't spam all of my LinkedIn contacts when I trust you and connect with you.

10. If I give you my business card in real life please don't auto opt me into your spammy enewsletter or start spamming me on LinkedIn or Facebook.

11. Don't copy me on a Facebook message with 300 other people to invite me to your event, please.

12. Tag me in Facebook or Google+ photos where we both look good please, not just you! 😉

13. Don't spam my Facebook wall with your business page.

14. Don't ask my Facebook friends or “likers” on my business page to like your Facebook page. We all need likes. Give us a reason and we just might stop by to say hi.

15. Think more about me and my needs than you and your needs.

16. Get in my head. What do I want to accomplish? How can you help me meet my business goals and objectives?

17. Be sunshine on a rainy day once in awhile. How can you make me smile and remind me there are good people in the world?

18. If you like a blog post I write, share it with your friends.

19. If you really like a blog post I write then feel free to Google+ 1 it, Stumble it, Digg it, pin it on Pinterest and of course share it with your Facebook friends.

20. Respond to my question or comment when I post on your wall or profile.

21. Introduce me to your other online friends who you think we could do go good work together.

22. Join me on a Twitter chat such as #GetRealChat that I host.

23. If I make you laugh,tell me.

24. If I made your day, tell me. It might just make mine for the simple fact that I made yours.

25. If you like my tweet, well then by all means retweet it and tell your friends about it.

26. Give me credit for my work.

27. If you love a blog post, leave a comment.

28. If you disagree with me, leave a comment or let me know. I have some amazing friends and colleagues whom I have met online via a conversation that started with a debate on a topic we were both passionate about.

29. Don't join my private Facebook group and then spam all of us.

30.  Show advocacy for my friends and contacts as you come in contact with them. Don't just look at them as another sales target.

31. Come over to my place sometimes. I'd love a visit from you on my Facebook wall, business page or Google+ page.

32. If I have done something good for you and helped you grow your business, then share such with your friends who mention they need the same services I offer.

33. If we are connected and in the same tribe via Triberr then give me some Triberr love in the form of tweets, bookmarking, Karma love etc.

34. LinkedIn recommendations are always warm and welcome when I've earned them.

35. Read the article associated with a tweet before you blast me and the writer about how wrong it is.

36. Read blogs and other content to understand not just leave a comment and brag about yourself.

37. If you have a funny joke don't be afraid to tell me.

38. If you don't understand something I say, write or do, then ask. I won't know unless you tell me.

39. If you like me, my personal blog and what I do for you then check out my full service social brand, digital marketing & reputation management agency, Marketing Nutz too. We might be able to help you even further.

40. Don't spam me in my Twitter direct message box.

41. Don't give to get.

42.  If you come on my TweetChat #GetRealChat don't bash the guest about your bad service you had a year ago. Not the time and place.

43. Share your best stuff with me for free. Don't always require me to opt-in or be afraid I'll steal it. I might just tell my friends about it too.

44. Subscribe to my RSS feeds and you'll get blog updates daily.

45. Subscribe to our email communication and newsletters and you'll get even more cool stuff.

46. Subscribe to my YouTube channel as well as Marketing Nutz, our agency channel. Hey, you can even watch a video while you're there!

47. Want my friendship as much as you want my business.

48. Each day set aside time to engage and show your friends the social love. Hopefully that includes me? 😉

49. Have fun. Don't take social business, social media, Facebook, Google+, LinkedIn, Twitter too seriously.

50. Acknowledge I might do things different than you. The only way to do social media is the way that works for you and your business. Respect our differences and we'll be just fine!

Bonus Tip: When all else fails… send me dark chocolate please.


Your Turn

Are you a good friend to your online connections? What do you do to show people you appreciate them? What are the best ways for others to show you they appreciate you?

Heartbeat of Social Media Series

heartbeat of social mediaThis blog post is part of a new series titled “The Heartbeat of Social Media“. It will include a deep look at how communities work, what people are doing within them and how businesses can better understand how they can fit in, provide value and derive benefit as both a business as well as individual people.

Subscribe to the series for updates and access to special videos, webinar training and more. Would love to hear your input and have you participate in discussions and debates as we challenge each other to be part of what makes the social network heartbeat healthy and alive in 2012!

I'll be hosting a free “Facebook for Business” as well as “Rock Your Blog” webinar with focus on social media optimization which will deep dive into some of the topics discussed in this post. Subscribe to the series for updates and early invitations.


About the Author:

CEO / Founder Marketing Nutz, full service social media, digital marketing, experiential brand, conversion optimization agency. Ranked by Forbes as Top 10 Social Media Women and 10 Social Media Power Influencer. Keynote speaker, author, strategist, consultant, coach, & trainer. Helps businesses of all sizes integrate social media into the DNA of their business, connect with target audiences to nurture authentic customer relationships. 15+ years experience working with Fortune 500, Franchised corporations with 4000+ local franchises to entrepreneurs and startups.


  1. Queen Bee Media February 14, 2012 at 3:06 pm

    Love this! “Social media creates amazing opportunities to connect with real people” This is so true and I love how your write with a real connection. Keep the wonderful blog posts coming @MktgNut!

    • PamMktgNut February 17, 2012 at 3:48 pm

      @Queen Bee Media Thanks! Yup, the people are what makes the social heart beat 🙂

  2. alanmentser February 14, 2012 at 3:09 pm

    Great comments Pam Moore! How do I deal with a FB friend who makes too many posts? 6-10 a day is overload for me and takes up too much space. Guess I need to tell them to slow down…

    • SociallyGenius February 15, 2012 at 1:09 pm

      @alanmentser I’m sure Pam will answer but wanted to offer a couple suggestions in the meantime. One thing that has really helped me to get the most enjoyment out of my Facebook feed is utilizing the lists. I’ve realized that a lot of people don’t know what they are or don’t use them. Put those who you want to see more of in your “close friends” category. You can also put people into an “acquaintances” category and you’ll be less likely to see their posts unless you click to view that particular feed. Let me know if you don’t know how to categorize your friends and I’ll be happy to expound further. Otherwise, you might have to consider “hiding” your friends posts if they bother you that much. Hope that helps!

    • PamMktgNut February 17, 2012 at 3:47 pm

      @alanmentser Hi Alan! You can set your news feeds to only see the posts from the people you want. YOu can also select to see less of a specific person. A couple people have asked me about this recently. I’ll try to do a quick video soon and give specifics.

  3. RebeccaForstadtOlkowski February 15, 2012 at 1:01 am

    Great list of social media tips and so true mktgnut You are sunshine on a rainy day. #17

    • PamMktgNut February 17, 2012 at 3:50 pm

      @RebeccaForstadtOlkowski mktgnut awww… thanks! You just brought some into mine too. xoxo

  4. SociallyGenius February 15, 2012 at 2:16 pm

    Another super good post, I agree with and practice most all of the 50 methods you presented. However, I’d love your opinion on something closely related to this discussion. Where do you (or other superstars) draw the line for someone showing tooo much love? There are times where tweet people or post a nice message on their FB page and it gets ignored. I usually give folks the benefit of the doubt that they’re probably busy so I don’t go Cyberstalking them, but sometimes think I’m ignored for a reason. Do you have any suggestions or insights relating to overloving someone 🙂 ?

    • PamMktgNut February 17, 2012 at 3:50 pm

      @SociallyGenius My guess is people are just busy. I always tell people to feel free to bug me if they haven’t heard from me. For example this week I am in the dog house w/my social friends 😉 I had a crazy busy week, big client meeting etc. Am quite behind on replying to all the social mail, comments, DMs etc. Plus who could be “bugged” by you? Not me! Hope your wknd is awesome!! 🙂

  5. luhkamaeni February 23, 2012 at 8:23 pm

    Nice your list tips, thank
    I like that

  6. mqtodd March 3, 2012 at 9:09 am

    Great stuff Pam always much to learn from you. I want your friendship as much as your business! 

  7. RockTique March 4, 2012 at 7:53 am

    This is my first blog read of the morning…pre coffee (yeeps!) so please excuse my lack of an interesting comment. I just wanted to say what an excellent post, I love (and can relate to) almost everything on this list. Great job! I do have a question for you (if you don’t mind 🙂 What have you found to be the most effective way to keep up w/Twitter? With replies, retweets and mainly new followers. I’ve yet to find a way to simplify it all!

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  9. imizze April 7, 2012 at 2:37 pm

    Some of them are no brainers but then again some people have no brain 😉

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  11. Laci Lewis November 28, 2012 at 11:05 am

    I love everything that says “don’t spam…”

    To be a good connection, I always give shout-outs to those who help me (whether by answering questions, mentioning our brand(s) or supplying awesome content! Also, when I retweet, I add hashtags to make it more searchable.

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